I really thought I’d miss Twitter and Instagram a lot. Not seeing the constant buzz of my phone popping off at every hour of the day? Goodness. I don’t miss it that much. In fact, I’m enjoying looking at my phone and discovering new things.
Oh, for those that don’t know… I’ve decided to spend way less time on social media in 2020. In reference, that’s Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat & Instagram with moderate access to LinkedIn for jobs and YouTube as normal. I’ll still be on it, just not as much as I’ve done. I’ve limited to at least twice a month for 30 minutes maximum per day. Why? Old friends may use that as an opportunity to reach out to me & sometimes jobs come through here or there.
It’s been one week so far. One thing I’ve definitely noticed is how idle life feels when you’re so involved in the online world that you neglect simple, everyday things that impact the quality of living.
I’m someone who likes to look after myself. Change sheets regularly. Drink water to maintain clear skin etc. that’s me. (Side note: you’d be surprised that this isn’t considered normal by some!). However, I’d spend so much time polishing my online profiles more than my own real life. That’s not to say I don’t look after myself, but the effort I put online I don’t put in real life.
So are you saying you’re a catfish?
No, far from it. I look good, don’t worry about that. I sometimes forget that the online world is not real no matter how much you polish yourself up. There is only so much you can do on a 2D platform that can’t showcase who you really are in the flesh.
If your teeth aren’t straight, multiple spots on your face, acne, lazy eye, feel tall as a woman and being shamed because you wear heels, 5’7 or under and you’re a man or you have one leg longer than the other:
All those listed above are fine, because you aren’t a mistake.
It’s easy to compare yourself with a large majority who don’t have those things listed above and see they’re doing well. Then you look at yourself in a mirror and feel like you’re a human error because the likes/followers are low. You aren’t recognised at all yet you put 1000% in your work. Newsflash: look at Iomikoe Johnson. She used her condition with the negative bullying to become a model and write a book empowering others. A woman who inspired her was Winnie Harlow who has the same condition as her. Success is contagious!
My advice: don’t be ashamed with who you are. Of course, how you present yourself online is up to you. Be wise and ask friends what they think of your online profile. Why? No one wants to be on social media and likes someone constantly pushing something in their face. Quick example. I appreciate how you lost your hand in the war, but mentioning it in your tweets every single day every minute every second every year gets annoying. Don’t be that person. We know you lost your hand. Give it a rest.
Don’t give up on anything you’re going for. Even if you consider yourself not to be the best, you’re getting better just by trying.