It’s something we don’t like – let’s be honest.
You trust yourself in the process. You believe you know what you’re doing. After all, it’s going smoothly. Let me burst your bubble: it’s not.
I could read this post a thousand times and it would look perfect. Someone else would read it and spot a few grammatical errors. How? Perspective.
Accountability is important because perspective is brought into the equation. It allows growth to occur as honesty is revealed to shape the thought process of the situation. Mistakes therefore are reduced, progression is effective and an element of passing down information to people who need similar guidance is available.
You see, though, we won’t admit all that happens to our close friends. We don’t want the honest truth. We don’t want to update how we’re doing on a weekly basis. Yes, you tell your friends the easy things to speak about, like the arguments with your spouse as it’s common. You don’t tell them the gambling addiction that’s making it hard for you to purchase simple necessities at home.
Don’t be embarrassed. I’ll tell you this for free. Your friends will respect you for coming out and saying this to them.
I disliked how my face looked. My confidence resided in a haircut as it was when I received compliments.
I hated my height. It made dating tall girls tough as they wanted men that were taller. On Twitter, my height is an automatic write off for dating (check my bio).
For a long time I felt like that. When I kept telling my friends over the years that went by, they told me the complete opposite. I was reminded that I’m handsome, everyone’s perception of beauty is different and I need to not fit into society’s standard of a man.
I have great friends.
I can look at my Instagram page and not worry if my pictures have 5 likes.
I can walk out the house knowing I’m handsome without a haircut for 6 weeks.
I can use my height to my advantage instead of moaning about it.
This wouldn’t be possible without staying accountable to my friends. It took a long time to understand my true value. I’m not God to deal with everything on my own. Human beings are limited in a lot of things – putting it simply, we need help!
How to choose an accountability partner? From experience, it’s someone you don’t want to disappoint. That’s my best friend. Letting her down breaks me, so it pushes me to be better every week. They see you for who you are and can give the best advice/honest feedback. Other examples of accountability partners can be found here.
To my male friends, no matter your age, it’s okay to feel like the problem-solver in everything. It’s in our nature. Sometimes, though, our ways are futile when we’re dealing with long term commitments/issues. They aren’t as clear as we think they are.
You want to be consistently better, not consistently passive.
A second post will be written as a follow-up. We need to question our friends when they’re doing something out of character.