Don’t hate the player – hate the game

Have you heard that saying? I have.

It was when I purchased a PS3 back in 2012.

Femi, it came out in 2005, why are you 7 years late?

My mum hated games consoles. I convinced her that Netflix was the next best thing after sliced bread.

Sold. And I don’t pay for Netflix since she does. Ha.

Anyway, after playing Black Ops multiplayer online against people for the first time, I was frustrated with the way I was dying in the game. Campers hiding made it difficult to take them out as they’d always catch you off guard. Another thing called “head glitching” whereby they’re extremely tough to shoot because they positioned themselves with cover protecting everything but a tiny part of their body… but they can kill you easily.

It’s not the player’s fault. The game doesn’t forbid you from this play style. Yes, the community frowns upon this behavior, but the game is the game.

This can be applied throughout everything in your life. It’s not just about how good you are, it’s about how you play the game. You can also term it this way: work smart, not hard.

Have you wondered why it’s so difficult to enter a profession you love that has a ratio of applicants per job by 10000:1? You wake up early, you research, do the relevant application, grind all day grafting on your skillset and yet only progress by 0.001%. Your colleague has no experience, you have 5 years, you both do the same job at the same workplace but she makes way more money than you. Women don’t want to speak to you because you’re short. The game is the game.

I’ll give you an example: to become a successful & well known photographer, it’s not about how good you are at shooting images. It’s about who you know and who knows you (in the industry). Same can be said for acting.

That’s it.

I can take pictures to put photographers with 30 years experience to shame. I can act and portray every single character in the world. But if I don’t know anyone and no one knows me… how will anyone know?

If you don’t like the game, you’ll lose all the time.

How do I play the game? 

It varies. The game requires qualifications, confidence or experience depending on what it is.  A universal answer I can give for a career/job is this:

Apply for a top firm that has the profession you want and intern/work for free (or do something you don’t mind just so you’re in the company database). After a few months and successfully passing your probation, you can request a meeting with your manager on how to develop to what you really want to do. Your manager will support you. It may take a long time, but you’ll get there.

Generally speaking, don’t be afraid to ask those who are experienced in the game. That’s the best way to play the game! We are all good at something. Some can cook up a storm. Some know how to switch an insult into confidence building tips. Some know employers who need candidates for a job. Some know directors who are casting specific characters.

It all starts with you. Learn to play the game. Don’t cheat, or you risk sabotaging everything. Once you’re experienced, taking shortcuts become easy.

The game is the game.


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