I don’t think you need it. You need to ask yourself why you’re asking for it.
What’s so bad about your woman earning more than you? You should push her to make more. Think about it. Your partner providing most of the finances shouldn’t shift the dynamics of the relationship. She will respect you and her love for you won’t change. What about you. What do you bring to the table?
Ask yourself that question and ponder on it for a few moments.
Women like money, but don’t let that be the only thing you’re good at getting.
When you think about it… it’s the way we were raised right? We should earn the most and be the head of the house. That’s all we’re told. And that’s the problem: that’s all we’re told.
Can you cook? Wash dishes? Clean the bathroom? Change the bed sheets? Hang the washed clothes on the line to dry? Pick up a hoover and vacuum the living room? Dust unreachable areas in the house? Are you tired of just reading those? My friend, you have a lot of work to do…
I’m not being harsh. I don’t want you to just be useful in one avenue. That’s how I was raised.
If my mum travels, she never has to worry about the maintenance of the house because she knows I have it covered. From bills to making sure the siblings eat a variety of meals.
What happens when she falls ill to the point she’s bed bound for a few weeks? If you can’t maintain the house, don’t take time off from work as you’ll waste your annual leave on being useless.
Hear me out bro.
If you’re genuinely happy her salary is more, you won’t compete to have a higher one. You’ll be motivated to work as hard as her. You will praise her for being a hardworking individual.
Okay, but what can I do because I don’t feel helpful. I’ll tell you a few things:
- Do you manage money better? Offer to regulate finances. Putting yourself in this position shows you care about the future of your family.
- Are you a good listener? Do you spend time to listen to her long day at work? What about her period pains? Have you invested in a snack box that is only available during the craving season per period cycle?
- Have you invested in her side hustle? By this, have you tried to network with individuals who have information to benefit her? Provided opinions on her logo, business plan, mission statement, body of work etc.?
- What new information have you learned that will add value to your woman? What’s going on in the news? Trade/stock prices? What to invest in. Different types of ISAs. Government regulations. Not buying items at full price.
I provided those four as those are things you can do right now.
Women are tired of men who are intimidated by something as small as having less earnings. Don’t be that guy.
Honestly. As a man, invest in yourself.
Make yourself resourceful. Skilful. Become useful in many areas.
Your woman may not say it, but her body language will tell you a spare hand in some instances in life makes the burden light.
Thank you for attending my TED talk.
P . S .
My intention wasn’t to attack/trigger men. We need to wake up and understand we aren’t living in the olden days of women doing everything in the house and we just bring the money and that’s it. It doesn’t work like that in this century.
This is a subjective post and may not relate to every relationship.